Secret Life of Bees, the

Ideal Husband, An (1999) IMDB rating: 6.70 Plot: Sir Robert Chiltern is a successful Government minister, well-off and with a loving wife. All this is threatened when Mrs Cheveley appears in London with damning evidence of a past misdeed. Sir Robert turns for help to his friend Lord Goring, an apparently idle philanderer and the despair of his father. Goring knows the lady of old, and, for him, takes the whole thing pretty seriously.

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If wife tries to change husbands personality, is divorce inevitable?
My wife and I are both students in our 20’s and in an interracial marriage. We had a good relationship for a year until we got married. At that point, everything went downhill. I think she wasn’t ready for marriage because she had already been nearly married twice and broke those off. From the first days of our marriage it seemed like she was looking for reasons to be upset. She would snoop in my skype and mail conversations and of course find nothing b/c there was nothing.
The only conversations I would have that I spoke freely were with a friend when we speak like guys, mostly BS’ing and trash talking to each other and obvious baloney stuff for fun and to push the envelope, but of course nothing real. For example, i’d make fun of my race, his race, her race, and say clearly made up stuff for laughs. Well being a suspicious wife from the beginning, she was snooping on this conversation remotely from her computer. She said it hurt her feelings but I think she’s always trying to made into a victim. On about 2 dozen occasions she’s walked out on me and said she wants a divorce so I’m absolutely willing to let her walk away b/c i think she’s just not built for a lasting marriage.
From the beginning she’s kept her facebook profile and inbox very private and away from my sight. Before we were married but while we were dating I once broke into her google mailbox and found her sending "kiss you" type videos to an ex boyfriend and semi nude pictures to him. That was also when I discovered she had hidden one of her engagement/near marriages from me. I know she has skeletons in her closet and I think she’s overly suspicious of me because she’s covering things up.
We have pretty much decided to end it but i’m wondering if her snoopish and suspicious nature would have ended it anyway? I’ve never even dated anyone besides her and I would never have cheated on her but these marriages where a girl tries to make her husband stop talking trash to his friends and carrying on like guys doesn’t last anyway right? I can’t imagine becoming her generic image of an ideal husband.

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yes women try to mold men into there own personal ken doll.
that just leads to divorce.
JR EWING | Nov 17, 2009

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Absolutely !
"GASH SMASHER" | Nov 17, 2009

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If she cannot accept you for who, and what you are, then the marriage will never work. Sit her down and talk to her in a serious manner. Tell her what you’ve told us!
olderbutwiser | Nov 17, 2009

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Sometimes people act a certain way and don’t even realize the damage they are causing. She probably feels right and completely justified for treating you that way. Everyone has issues to a certain extent and everyone says things they shouldn’t. Sometimes people take life too seriously and forget that it’s ok to joke around and be fun. When your partner is acting less then perfect, the best thing to do is wait for a good moment, when both of you are in a loving mood, and have a heart to heart talk about it. You know her probably better than anyone, especially if you spend lots of time together. There is always truth in what people say about you and she needs to take what you say into consideration and make a change.
Tanya | Nov 17, 2009

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I think you’re right ~ I think your wife’s behavior would have led to an affair, which would have ended your marriage.

But don’t get hung up on the what ifs. Only deal with the facts. It sounds like you have a pretty good handle on your situation, but I encourage you not to overlook your own actions in this scenario. It’s easy to place all of the blame on your wife, but I guarantee that there are some things you could have done differently. Identify those things, and learn from them. It will make you a better person in your next relationship.
mt75689 | Nov 17, 2009

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Trying to change anyone is a recipe for disaster. I’m going through the same thing now — my gf wanted me to stop eating meat because she’s vegetarian. If someone is trying to change you, that means they don’t love you for who you are — they love some idea of you they want you to be. It won’t work.
batman r | Nov 17, 2009

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please go to couples counseling. you need to talk to each other with a non bias person with you to work it out. when you talk about her she sounds like a complete maniac. the past is in the past but if she is still doing emails with her ex-bf then that is a big problem.
cope | Nov 17, 2009

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Your wife has walked out on you 2 dozen times and you are still with her?

I think I’ll just call you mat okay?
jdrumming | Nov 18, 2009